10. Remember What You Did Right

 

You know those days when you look in the mirror and realise you’ve had toothpaste around your mouth all morning?
Those days when you give in and buy the cheap plastic toy just to stop a paddy?
Those days when you let your toddler eat a whole tube of Smarties just because you need to keep them happy?
Days when the Ice Cream van is there and you just say yes. 

We all have those days.

It’s so easy to mentally beat yourself up about them.

To start counting off on your fingers all the things you didn’t do right, and that you didn’t do well. 

There are times I sit there at the end of the day and feel terrible. I feel like a failure. It’s all me, I make myself feel that way because I count the things I did wrong.

Not any more.

Recently I’m trying to count the things I did right.

I’ve realised that that my day to day life might look fairly dull. But there are days when I manage to single handedly push a heavy, wonky-wheeled trolley around the Asda and fill it with healthy food for my family.

There are days when I manage to wash and dry three loads of washing in a day.

Days when I answer all of Tom’s business emails and keep things ticking over.

Days when I go to school and explain fractions really well.

Days when I find partners for all the lost socks.

There are days…

There are always going to be days.

But now there are more days where I count the right things.

That’s a lesson learned, to remember the right things.

 

 

 

The Fool - August 19, 2013 - 6:39 am

Agree, all too easy to beat ourselves up when actually we achieve an awful lot as parents.

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Mum2BabyInsomniac - August 19, 2013 - 8:48 am

It is so much easier to focus on the bad things than to remember the good things. I’m definitely going to start focusing on the positive more, I’ve just managed to load the dishwasher and put some washing on so I’m doing well! x

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Caroline Thrussell - August 19, 2013 - 9:22 am

You’re so wise, it’s so easy to remember the negative things. I often think I need to be more like you, so keep counting the good things beacause there are lots of them! Xx

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lucy at dear beautiful - August 19, 2013 - 8:14 pm

So so true. I’m the same, and I try my best to focus on what I’ve done right each day. Granted, some days that is simply getting us all through the day fed and watered and alive. But focusing on the good stuff always helps.
x

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becky - August 23, 2013 - 10:20 pm

You do loads of amazing things Caroline! If you can’t count them I’ll count them for you ;)

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becky - August 23, 2013 - 10:21 pm

I think we’re just naturally hard on ourselves and count all the bad things!!

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becky - August 23, 2013 - 10:21 pm

An awful lot indeed Ben!

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Bex @ The Mummy Adventure - August 23, 2013 - 10:37 pm

Today I actually cooked something (incredibly healthy as it goes) for the littles. That is what I am going to remember then as there are an awful lot of bits worth forgetting x

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becky - August 23, 2013 - 10:40 pm

Good thinking Bex! Today I supplied my toddler with chocolate and babybel while we had a four hour trip in the car. But she’s happy – that’s what I’m remembering! :)

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Laura - September 23, 2013 - 7:14 pm

Becky you are amazing! Your blog is beautiful! It’s so funny, honest, intelligent and insightful and has made me laugh and cry this evening. I’m so glad you came across me on Instagram, this blog is a joy! More mummy’s need to read this, there are too many unrealistic expectations of motherhood. There are also too many pressures on mothers to act in a certain way or do certain things with thier children. It’s so refreshing to read mummy media that keeps it real and tells it like it is! Bravo sweetie, I hope you continue to get the recognition you deserve :) xxxxx

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